I have name changed as previously a 'friend' figured I was posting and shared with my DH, cheers!
So, basically my DH treats me like a tw*t, and I seem to let him. Why cant I just get rid, what is wrong with me? We have been together 7 years, he works away, comes home 1 night a week. We have 3 DC and his 2 DS also live with us me.
So, some examples of what he has done;
- walked out on me when pregnant with DC2, did not pay the mortgage and I had to sell the house to avoid repossesion.
- gambled £20k which was half of the proceeds of selling the house (I bought it before we met,so I feel it was mostly my money, particularly as when we got together I paid off £5k that he owed on loan, credit card and tax credit overpayment)
- had some sort of affair while I was pregnant with DC3, wont admit he slept with her but I found out that they had been having secret meetings and pretty over affectionate text messages were exchanged.
- Has just had a £140 mobile bill, when I check why it's so big it turns out he's been ringing and texting a particular number. Up to 30 or 40 times a day, including when DC3 was very poorly in hospital and he was looking after the other kids.He admits it is a woman but again insists that they have only spoken and texted. Apparently she's an old friend from school.
- Has just had his first five days off since last June, and has done nothing in the house. Nor done anything with the kids. Has mainly sat around reading the paper, fell asleep on the sofa or watched rubbish on the TV. While I was running around entertaining kids in half term and throwing a party for DSS birthday.
He criticises me constantly. The house is untidy,I dont discipline the kids enough, I'm too strict with the kids, I have no friends, nobody really likes me, I'm thick, I dont live in the real world and I'm every horrible name yoou can imagine calling someone.
So basically, why am I putting up with this? Yes, I worry about how I would manage financially, and yes, I dread that I would lose contact with DSS's who I've brought up for the last 7 years. But seriously, I cant live like this for the rest of my life so why dont I just chuck him out and live with it?
Sorry, was a bit of a ramble but I'm at the end of my tether.