XP just texted me:
"Hey can't have at the weekend not myself will transfer money tomorrow"
(Money comment relating to maintenence. Yes, he always writes without punctuation.)
Do you think I should challenge/confront him over it, or just ignore him and be pissed off for DS' sake? This is not the first time he has let me down at short notice - the last time he gave me about 14 hours' notice and said it was because he was moving. Found out from a mutual friend (my mum spoke to the friend, not me, as she bumped into him) that he wasn't moving house at all, it was his girlfriend's DD's birthday This friend made a comment about not liking the new girlfriend and thinking she was a bad influence (not sure of exact wording).
Other slight things niggling at me which could be less important on their own but all together are bothering me, I thought I smelt a very faint cigarette smoke smell on DS' hair when DS came home from last time he was with him, and the girlfriend didn't have custody of her DD until very recently. She's also pregnant and I don't know the details or anything but just on what I do know, she had to have got pregnant very early on in the relationship with him, ie in the first couple of weeks.
I just have an odd feeling - and I don't really know where this has come from - that there might be drugs involved. When I was with him, XP was always really vehemently anti-drugs and especially if there were children involved - in fact I once witnessed him nearly put one of his friends through a wall over his drug use. I know that XP used drugs (weed, pills, coke, speed, I think that's all) when he was younger, but he was always so totally against it I don't know that he would do them again. But I don't know if his girlfriend was using drugs whether he would be tempted to get involved again.
I hope I'm just being really paranoid - what do you think?
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What is this text supposed to mean from ex?
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BertieBotts · 27/05/2010 22:11
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