My story isn't too pleasant. I discovered a few weeks ago by chance by googling my father's name that he has been convicted of downloading child porn just 6 months ago. I discovered a news article describing him as a pervert and that the judge wanted to lock him away. For some reason he got away with a social order. After this discovery I of course was in shock. Over the years he never made much effort to stay in touch with us and is a cold distant person. However I would never have imagined he was capable of such a thing, that is to download such images.
I have been looking for material on this, to kind of answer questions like why would he be interested in this, and at what point could this have started, etc,etc. I don't really know what my specific questions are all I know is that I want answers. I have told my brother but I will not tell my mother (they have been separated for the last 11 years).
My father has been banned from going near any children for the next 3 years. Of course the implications of this mean that if me and my brother ever have children we are not going to let him go anywhere near them. Its all such a mess really.
We could just disown him. but he is our father....
My father appears a bit autistic. I always thought "Rain Man" was a good portrayal of him to a certain extent. he just could not show any feeling at all.
Sorry to go on and on. I am just struggling really to know what to do next. All I know really is that I have no desire to speak to him about it. Since making the discovery neither of us have contacted him.
Is there anyone here with similar experiences?
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Riveroflight · 25/05/2010 17:03
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