Missing DP like mad... does it last?

[aurynne]

DP is away for work for 3 days (3 days!) and here I am missing him like mad, writing him e-mails in which I describe everything I miss and love about him, like a teenager with a crush. We have just been together for 15 months, but I would love to think sometimes these strong feelings last, and that in 20 years time a grey-haired older version of me will be watching the stars and feeling the prong of love-sickness every now and then.

Any of you married (or partnered) for ages and still feeling like this when you are separated even for a short time? Please come and tell me about it. Or come and tell me I am being so daft that I make you feel like throwing up... anything will do.

[Malificence]

Of course it can last, I've always hated my DH being away from me, he hasn't been away in a couple of years now but if he had to go on a course or something we would defintely miss each in that teenagery way.
I look forward to seeing his face every single night and he's only away for 12 hours.
28 years together and still going strong.

He even rings me every working day to say hello.

[fedupwithdeployment]

That's lovely .... long may it continue.

I regret to say that after about 15 years of being together, I am not quite the same. DH spends a lot of time away (Navy) and I am so busy with boys, life, job, that the contact with DH suffers. It is perhaps somewhat different from your situation - he is currently away for 8 months (probably one week off in the middle), and so I just have to cope.

[Malificence]

As an ex-Airforce wife , I understand fedup, although the longest time he was ever away was for 6 months, but with a 6 month old DD, it wasn't much fun, especially as he was away in theatre ( 1st Gulf war) .

Is contact not a lot easier now though, with internet/webcams, skpe, mobiles etc.?
In our day it was payphones and blueys only .

One of the happiest couples we know are apart a lot, he works in Saudi for 4 months on / one month off , I have to say that's my idea of hell - four months with no sex, no thanks .

[stillfrazzled]

I've been with DH nine years, married for five.

He has been away for two weeks for an operation and TBH I feel like I'm missing an arm or something. Just miss talking in the evenings, can't sleep properly on my own, I worry about him and feel v uncomfortable about the distance apart we are.

It's not like when we were first together - not quite so gushy-emotional IYKWIM; I am missing my partner in the truest sense, DS's daddy and all that. Plus he's not on email where he is, and we don't have time to do two-hour convos where 'you hang up first, no you...' because DS is generally causing havoc or something!

That sounds v cold but hopefully you know what I mean.

Am currently sitting here planning lovely meals, DS and I are going to make a banner and cakes to welcome him home, and I can't wait...

[aurynne]

Thanks Malificence . I always read your posts about your relationship with your DH with a smile. You give me hope.

fedup... 8 months!!! I can't imagine 8 days apart at the moment. Do you miss him when you have a while on your own and the kids are not around though?

[aurynne]

stillfrazzled, it does not sound cold at all, it sounds lovely . It makes me think of both me and DP still together in 15 years time. He is the one who cooks and bakes for me though! It's going to be a very gastronomically challenged weekend for me...

[aurynne]

Sorry, I meant 9 years time, like you. My brain must have made an average between you and Malificence... it's been a long week...

[Pepsiginn]

I'm the same as you aurynne. My husband works in london and i hate it. The days drag without him - he is my best friend! I couldn't handle it without him for 3 days! He also is the cook in the house - so all i can suggest is head on down to M&S and get some yummy pre-made meals in.
Hang in there...

[Pepsiginn]

Oh - and i'm married and been with DH for over 6 years to answer your question originally...

[aurynne]

Thanks Pepsiginn, I am in New Zealand, so no M&S here... but I have a supply of Whittaker's chocolate ;)

[Pepsiginn]

Dude - i'm a kiwi!
A kiwi living in England!
Whereabout's are you?

[aurynne]

hahahaha I'm a Spaniard living in Christchurch

[Pepsiginn]

No way! So did you fall in love with one of the rugged-farm boys and end up staying or something?

I came over for a look around over 6 years ago - and have ended up staying and marring a Brit - so i'm stuck! I love it here though.

I was originally from Auckland - or Dorkland i call it!

[aurynne]

You've actually hit the nail on the head, he is (or was) a farmboy, easy as, hard-working (too hard sometimes), lovely-natured kiwi from the Hawkes Bay ;). I'm loving New Zealand, but I am not done with traveling yet.

There must be something about Kiwis... I am the third Spanish gal-Kiwi bloke couple I've found in ChCh so far.

[Pepsiginn]

Awww - he sounds like a little gem. Take him travelling with ya girl and yeah - i wonder what it is about you lovely Spanish and us kiwis eh!
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