The man I care about most of all is getting married. Need cheering up.

[dunceinlove]

Have name changed.

He's not marrying me either!
She sounds lovely.
We had a thing in the past. No sex but an intense connection. It didn't work out as I was wounded by an ex and I didn't want to get hurt. I cared about him so much but I just couldn't afford to get close at that time.
he's now marrying his gf Ive been told.
She does sound perfect for him and I am happy for him but also very sad as I do still like him. I don't think I will feel this way about anyone else even though I am sure I will meet a nice guy soon.

I'm a single mum and all my ex boyfriends are settling down with their girlfriends. I just feel really rejected.

[oneorboth]

oh poor you. i feel for you.
horrible horrible horrible. have some wine, or chocolate, or maybe both and be kind to yourself.

i to have someone like this. if we had met about 6 years ago it would have been perfect but it was all too complicated to work out.
and i too dont think that anyone will ever come close to him.

but i dont regret it.

and neither should you.

[aSilverLining]

Aaw I really feel for you! I have someone in my life too that no one else will ever come close to but that I can't end up with, it is an extremely bittersweet feeling I dread the day he decides to settle down with someone, I will feel utterly bereft. Chocolate and a good cry, then plan some nice things for you that you can look forward to.

[MitsubishiWarrioress]

So sorry. It hurts loads and I suspect there will always be somewhere inside that does.
But I would say throw yourself into other areas of life and try to be positive and driven about something. It gives the pain a positive outlet rather than eating you up.

Take care of yourself though xx

[LemonDifficult]

Ouch, ouch, ouch. That sounds so miserable, I really feel for you. Please don't feel rejected, though. This isn't about you. It's about him, timing, settling down, life's expectations, timing. Did I mention this is about timing?

Wine, chocolate, and friends will make things feel a little better. And believe that there really is someone out there for you who'll be better than this guy. It's just all a matter of time. You sound lovely - it will work out in the end!

I hope you're feeling much better about this soon once the news has sunk in a bit more.

[dunceinlove]

i have really BAD timing!

Thanks all. i am throwing myself into my business plan and i love work atm soo all is not lost!

[outofmysystem]

did you tell him how you felt?

Have you seen the wedding singer?

[flibertygibet]

My 'first love' (age 17) phoned me before he asked his gf to marry him. He said he felt like he should ask my 'permission'! I was already married by that time.

I felt flattered. But also really upset, as I always thought one day we'd get it back together.

I'll always have a soft spot for him but we were too young.

[TDiddy]

console yourself that most of us disappoint in the end ; so better to savour the sweet fantasy than taste the bitter reality