This OP doesn't require an answer. I keep reading "The kids adore their dad" as a reason for staying in a poor relationship. It's triggered a personal memory. Some grown-ups were talking in the living room. I was in the playroom with my brother (that makes me 10 or under, as we didn't have a playroom after that). A visitor said "Those children worship their father!" My brother and I looked at each other with precocious sarcasm - learned at an early age - "We worship him because he tells us to!", we sniggered to each other.
That was true in my house (he went through a phase of making us call him "Master", the wanker.) Nonetheless, it might be worth remembering that all children 'adore' their parents, simply because they're hard-wired for it. This does not necessarily mean the kids have made a balanced judgement that their parent is adorable. They're children; the parents they've got are the only ones they know.
It's more reasonable to look at how much give-and-take of love, affection and respect there is between parent and child. Balanced judgements can be made by you, the parent, because you have the benefit of wider knowledge & experience. How the child appears to feel about its parent is, in & of itself, a reflection of a child's instincts: nothing more. You need to look at grown-up evidence.
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ItsGraceAgain · 10/04/2010 01:53
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