I've got a pretty tight group of friends, most of them I've known for 5+ years and I'm generally very good about staying in touch etc and consider myself to be a good friend. Always available if someone needs to talk, needs help, that sort of thing. I know them all through slightly different ways, but quite a few of them have since become friends through me, if that makes sense?
In the last 12 months, I've fallen out with 3 friends enough to cut all contact with them. Not massive rows, but they've each done something which has made me think they aren't worth being friends with any more, so I've deleted numbers and not invited them out/over/tried to see them.
I didn't think there was really anything wrong with this. People fall out, people move on, but yesterday, I was talking to a colleague about his wife, who has just fallen out with her mum. He said that it hadn't come as a massive shock, because the mother is "the sort of person who cuts people out if they do anything to cross her, or upset her. She has always been like that - very narsasistic"
I'm now really paranoid that I am one of those people. While I am obviously a believer in second chances, I also feel I need to be able to fully trust my friends, so if someone does something to betry that trust, I don't want to have much to do with them anymore.
Is this normal? Or do I need to have a long look at my attitudes towards other people?
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Dumping friends - is it normal, or a sign there is something wrong with me?
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sparechange · 07/04/2010 12:59
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