sex question - tmi...

[susia]

Hi, I wondered if any of you have any advice about this.

I have started a newish relationship with someone I really like and everything is going really well apart from this problem about sex

I have always in past relationships had no problem reaching orgasm but only through intercourse (which probably makes me a bit unusual). Anyway, with this guy I can every time through oral (which is a first for me!) but not through intercourse which I am finding really frustrating.

Although he is great in bed and not at all selfish I can't seem to explain or he doesn't get that I need less thrusting if you see what I mean..!

[BitOfFun]

I think you would be better off talking to your sexual partner about this than anyone here. What do we know?

[susia]

sorry if that was a bit graphic, just don't know what to do

[kittya]

postioning?

[poshwellies]

Urm...just bloody tell him.

[kittya]

or, is it that important? you already sound lucky to me!

[SlinkyGoober]

Dump him. Get a rabbit.

[SolidGoldBrass]

Tell you what, I'll pop round with a tape measure, a torch and a bunch of diagrams I donwloaded from the internet. Then you and him can go at it on the carpet and I'll shine my torch on your foof and his willy, wield my tape measure and tell you exactly how and where you're both going wrong.

Alternatively, you could spend some time alone with a dildo and work out what you need in terms of speed, angle and depth of penetration and then tell him that.

[SleepingLion]

Yes - only orgasms through oral? How terrible!

In the immortal words of Chandler Bing: Oh no - two women love me, my wallet's too small for my fifties and my diamond shoes are too tight!

[Malificence]

Umm, get on top and control the pace and rhythm? All he's got to do is enjoy the ride, if he needs more thrusting to finish, he can flip you over, et voila! You both get your jollies.

[kittya]

I dont think I could be even bothered to bring it up tbh, its not like he's crap in bed!!

[BitOfFun]

Yet you can be bothered to bring it up here. Strange.

[poshwellies]

okaaay

[Monty100]

who is op.

[BertieBottsChocolateBeans]

kittya is not the OP, susia is.

[BitOfFun]

Ah- perhaps I got the wrong end of the stick.

[Monty100]

[kittya]

You have and there was no need to get nasty.

[kittya]

thats twice in one night. Not nice.

[BitOfFun]

My apologies, kittya- I am sensitive after a load of voyeuristic trolls this week. But I realise you aren't one now, so sorry I jumped down your throat.

[kittya]

what trolls honey? thats okay. I just thought it was abit strange!! the OP should count herself lucky, me thinks!

[EricNorthmansmistress]

It's a new relationship, it takes a while to get in synch with each other, there isn't really a problem here, except that he thrusts too much for you which you should tell him....

[BessieBoots]

Second the get on top and control it all yourself suggestion.