It's really sad, we have always been very close, but his gf and I don't get along at all.
Since meeting her he has become convinced by conspiracy theories, loads and loads of them. Literally everything can be put down to a conspiracy theory. I don't actually blame her for this change, and it's neither here nor there whether it has anything to do with her. She is very argumentative with our family, and huffy and tutty (iykwim)with my (relatively well behaved) children.
We have all agreed that it is better if we steer away from political conversations/arguments as this inevitably leads on to some mad theories about a few Jewish families ruling the world, che, trails, weather mainipulation, innoculation conspiracuies, food conspiracies, even at times holocaust denial! It is depressing and disturbing.
They've been together 5 years and clearly she isn't going away.
Oh god, long story short, sorry;
Christmas was a disaster, she was very rude to everyone, my kids, my Dad, she was argumentative and kept asking my bro when they could leave. She is also passive agressive, making regular comments about various things, food, people. In essence she's not very nice, but my bro clearly loves her.
A month or so later we went away for a family weekend ,and I stopped being nice to her. Reacted to some ridiculous arguments she initiated, and am now in the dog house.
Been for a drink twice with db and he has torn strips off me three times since we went away. The things he says ought to be unforgivable, but I don't really think he's rational. He is sane, but this conspiracy thing is mental and all encompassing. Also, she has clearly been bending his ear and every time I think we're sorted, he comes back to me with a new level or anger and diatribe.
He's back to ignoring me again I think. She wants me to apologise to her, he has said I don't need to, but I think he might have changed his mind. I really don';t think I can without her and him at least conceding some of her bad behaviour.
Do I accept with a deep sadness that my relationship with him has changed beyond repair and just let him get on with things with her, or do I fight to keep him as my friend and brother.
Guess if it's the latter I need to apologise to her.
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NorthEastNorah · 31/03/2010 15:08
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