any advice please

[poopeeplops]

Hi peeps,

Had bad pregnancy and father wasnt ready for a baby but i didnt want a termination, was not planned but werent taking precautions either. I choose to keep the baby and knew i wud be doing it alone, he messed me around alot through the pregnancy saying i want to be involved then no i dont want to be involved.
Baby is here now and he wants to try and make amends, he was aggressive towards me wen i was 9mths and never showed support.
He has tried all the ways to get me to agree to access but i have said it has to be in a contact centre and i want drugs test to prove hes not been smoking drugs before seeing him, he has said he is not willng to do this, i now feel guilty, have i done the right thing? He once told me he drives after having smoked drugs with his other son in the car, and he smokes it at home whilst other child is there, i just want my son safe. Opinions please ladies!

I feel really guilty and bad about the situation, feel like this is my payback for not terminating the baby.

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[BelleDameSansMerci]

You have absolutely done the right thing. Please do not feel guilty about protecting your child.

[Karmann]

Please don't feel guilty - you are protecting your child from possible harm. Any sensible mother would do the same. Your child's wellbeing comes first. You have been more than fair suggesting a contact centre.

[Jux]

You have definitely done the right thing. Stick to your guns.

[poopeeplops]

thanx all, just seems all situations are much more in depth with our decisions wen children are on the scene, i kno wot id be saying to a friend in this situation, thanx again x

[sungirltan]

you stand your ground! contact centre access isn't final. if he bucks his ideas up in the future and you trust him then you can rethink things.

you've nothing to feel guilty for, nothing!