my pregnancy was unplanned. very unplanned. bit of a shock but at 18 i feel resonably capable of doing the right thing, so my initail shock quickly turned to bubbling excitement.
the boyfriend, whom we shall rename as james, is 21. he's sort of bumbled around for the last three years after gaining quite good A-Level results. (BBB) since 2007 he's worked as a crew member at a popular fast food restaurant. this is where i met him, fortunatley i only work here to part time to pay for my car. love over the burger grills?
he's nice enough and before the pregnancy i never really minded the fact that he works part time and lives with his dad, and can't drive, in fact, we got on, really well.
but now im pregant (4 months to the day) and he's known for all of that time, you'd expect him to buck up, no?
i have to nag, and i hate nagging, it upsets the both of us, and its hassle i dont need!! darling can you look for a job (yeah...later!") he doesnt seem interested and i can spend all morning trying to get him out of bed when i stay at his on the weekend, he's shown no interest at all but gets annoyed with me when i say i will do it alone.
i dont know if its harsh, but there is so much i need to do in the next 5 months and would rather not do it alone, but my parents have made it clear that if i stay with him and let him bumble around i will get no support, but alternately i can do the "sensible thing" and kick him to the kurb and they will give me all the support they can.
i'm happy to set him free if he wants, but he fights it. im begining to resent him, and wonder what i ever saw in him. the baby is just too important to make the wrong decision though.
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might have to lose the BF and go it alone
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1pregheadpumpkin · 27/03/2010 14:09
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