This is a bit ironic as I contributed to a thread a few days ago on a similar thing. Anyway...
Basically, a couple of nights ago we were having sex. DP started to get, ahem, close and started going too fast and too hard, and holding my head at an awkward angle (by accident - I was on top and he was hugging me). My jaw was trapped against his shoulder and I couldn't really speak, but I said 'Ow' a few times, but he didn't hear (and probably thought it was noises of enjoyment. When he finally let me go, I burst into tears (feeling a bit fragile and hormonal atm). He was devastated. He is a lot bigger than me (I am quite a small person and he has rugby-player type build) and thinks it's all his fault.
Now, I have completely got over it, and I did within about 5 mins. I trust him completely, and it's just bad luck he didn't understand me, and in normal circumstances I wouldn't have cried. But he feels really really awful about it and can't stop mentioning it. I have told him a lot that it's fine and he mustn't feel bad, but he still does. We had sex this morning, but he wouldn't go 'all the way'. I think he is scared of hurting me again. He rang me from work asking if I was 'alright' (I am).
I'm just worried that this might turn into a bigger deal than it needs to be, and he might be too scared to sleep with me in case he damages me.
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BrahmsThirdRacket · 05/03/2010 16:38
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