The main symptom is not earning a living, and defending his position angrily if challenged. I did finally suggest what I saw as highly odd behaviour was depression about five years ago. Since then he has done little to address it. He has a very part time job now, but didn't earn a single penny last year, and expects me to pay for everything. But without saying thank you, or even noticing that he very often wasted money. He had a priviledged upbringing and his parents had inherited money, and I just think he is taking me for a ride and doesn't mind enough that it makes me unhappy and is destroying our 21 year marriage (3 kids - two older one at primary school). I have no one close to me who can talk to him honestly, and he does not have these kinds of friends either. I feel very isolated. He lost his father last year, and his mother, although frail, is very concerned about situation and once thanked me for 'looking after him'. But I don't want to be a carer, I want to be a wife and equal partner in this marriage. I am at the end of my tether (been there often before, just pick self up and carry on). Bring out the absolute bitch in me, but all he says is 'You are very angry'. He is dead right I am. But really just very sad.
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