DH and I are having a few issues, but for the last few days things have been good (I know it's not much, but hey - baby steps!)
There are issues where we can both be unreasonable I know, but there is one particular issue that causes problems every time, and it's probably me being unreasonable. In fact the rational part of me knows it is.
Basically I have issues when he goes out late drinking. I don't mind him doing things without me, of course - I know it's healthy and we both need more of our own interests, but if it involves going out on the town I hate it. I sometimes end up agreeing that I will be fine with it and then when he rolls in at 2am being really pissed off. It's not fair, I know - I just really hate the thought of him drinking and being surrounded by girls in short skirts, I used to go out a lot and have seen how a lot of men behave when out! also when we were out together before he has done a couple of things that upset me, for example when we were engaged he was talking to and flirting with a girl he sort of knew for ages and not even mentioning me at all. This was a few years ago obviously but it doesn't help. I suppose now he's a dad I feel like he shouldn't want to go out like this. Do other things, fine, pool with mates etc, great - but out clubbing and drinking? I hate it!
Anyway he doesn't go out often (so I know I'm being unreasonable) but there's a stag do coming up and I'm worried he's going to be going away somewhere, which also I would find hard as we haven't had a holiday ourselves since DS was born (financial mainly). Anyway am I being completely U as I expect, and how do I deal with these emotions when they come up? As we are getting on so well at the moment I want to try and sort this out.
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I know I'm being unreasonable and have namechanged but need advice - please don't be too harsh on me!
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UnreasonableWife · 13/01/2010 09:29
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