help - I'm losing all my friends...

[1000cals]

I've always gone out of my way to meet people. I'll fit in with other people's plans/timings/venues etc. Now that I've got four children, this just isn't possible. Now I feel that all those friends I've made over the last ten years have just been friends whilst it's been easy for them, and they can't be bothered any more.

For instance, we were meant to be spending new year with another couple. But they binned us off on a voicemail at the last minute as they had a better offer. When I sat back and thought about it, I realised that they hadn't been to our home for more than five years. We had always gone out of our way to meet them at theirs or somewhere that's convenient for them.

My self esteem is at all an time low, but I feel I should move on from crap friends. Has anybody else been in a similar situation?

[Chandon]

happens to lots of people!You just grow apart...

No need to discard all your friends though

[junglist1]

Actually invite people to yours for girly nights in or show their kids your kids toys etc. If they still can't be bothered, find people who are. You are worth more than to have people who won't go out of their way for you. And remember, it's about their laziness, nothing else

[merryxmasfellowbumps]

i know exactly how you feel , im 28 weeks pregnant with my first baby , im 21 years old , before being pregnant i was out all the time , my phone wouldnt stop, wat i thought were really good mates just all suddenly dissapeared off the face of the earth!!
made me angry cos i had always bent over backwards for them etc . . .
e.g my birthday not so long back i had invited everyone out for a meal, everyone came to the resturant where we were going to eat ,except they all came with the intention to get bladdered . . . .
consequently i was home and in bed by half 9 on my birthday , just because i got pregnant i was no longer no fun!
iv spent hours crying over it and stressing but deep down i know that they are not true freinds because true freinds would stick by me like i do to them.

and like chandon says . .its true people do just grow apart , im sure one day wen they have kids and want to meet up and have that chat they will know exactly how it feels.

[SerenityX]

This is perfectly natural. You need to find friends in a situation similar to your own. A lot of my old friends are child free by choice and don't like to be around children. I was the same way. A friend of mine has the most child unfriendly house imaginable. Hole in the floor - with a glass circular staircase. 3 water feature - ponds. Swarzowski crystal vase (thousands) on her coffee table.

Basically to a toddler the place is a death trap. When she came to mine - my child snapped off the jewels from her expensive shoes.

It was worse than the scene in Sex and The City. Yup time to move on.

When she wants advice on nipple cream she can call me. I have lost the ability to spend an evening out with her having fun without mention the 'child' word once.