I know the title of the book is shocking, but I really needed to do something to stop stupid, blown up arguments from ruining our marriage.. so I read this book. Some of it makes sense to me and I think I should try some of the suggestions. Does anyone have any experience of it?
And for anyone who has..
In some ways, I don't think I am like the women this book is aimed at, for example I don't tell DH what to wear or anything! Also the criticisms - I feel he is a bit critical of me for smaller things rather than the other way around.. BUT, I am definitely quite controlling of the way we bring up ds.. I tell him when I think he's doing something wrong, and also in other ways eg some of the things he wants to do or when he doesn't want the same as me!
I find it hard though when he does something that upsets me to act through it, as often I think I overreact and it's only through perspective after several days that I can make a fairer judgement over whether I am BU. But I find it hard to pretend there's nothing wrong if there is, and he will say "what's wrong, I know there's something" and then we will argue from there.
does this make sense? Has anyone tried to do something similar to this?
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Has anyone read the surrerndered wife?
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Zooropa · 11/01/2010 13:31
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