I posted in AIBU last night, this is the thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/890316-To-Think-My-Dh-Should-Not-Have-Thrown-DS-39
I hadn't heard from DH, so as I was dishin up dinner decided to ring and offer him some, as it is freezing outside and I suspected he was in his office, which isn't the warmest of places and there certainly isn't anywhere to get a hot meal. However, he started ranting at me again and refused to accept he has done anything at all wrong. He sai dhe had tried to ring me last night, btu I wasn't interested in talking to him. He's right, I wasn't, as he had the same 'not in the wrong' attitude then.
Clearly, this marriage cannot carry on. Will take a while to sink in, but that's horses for courses, I suppose. I can stay in this (army) house for thre months from the time he makes it official with the army. I am currently in Northern Ireland and although I don't want to move the DC's schools, I don't really think I can stay here as I have no family here.
I have no clue about the practicalities. I currently recieve carers allowance and DLA at the highest care rate for DS3, and am in the process of appealing about the mobility component. I also get some maintenance from the DC's Dad each month. Other than this, I have no money of my own and am 8 weeks pregnant.
Will I be entitled to tax credits of anything liek that base don my carers allowance? Do they count that as work? I do breed snakes as a hobby, which could be a viable business, but in the first year or two I would need extra help with tax credits or something. If I set it up as a business, would Tax Credits class that as a job? Realistically it will be another six months before I have any money coming in from that.
Any help or advice, practical or otherwise would be really appreciated. I am feeling like total shit now.
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midori1999 · 09/01/2010 17:59
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