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Is this an over-reaction?

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OrmIrian · 04/12/2009 14:45

Got the news yesterday that dad was coming out of hospital. Very excited. When I got home there was a bit of a kerfuffle which meant that DH had to take the cat to the vet without me (on foot) and I met him on the way with the car. He was a bit flustered and irritable. Once he was in the car I told him about my dad and he just looked at me and shrugged. As if it didn't matter. I was quite upset. Dad's health has been dominating all my thoughts and worries for 3 weeks and now I can stop worrying. I thought he's be happy.

He did apologise later - said he didn't know what to say - but I still feel hurt. Is that stupid? He's been ratty recently - I think work is stressing him out.

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tiredoftherain · 04/12/2009 14:51

That's great news about your dad! It sounds like it might have been a stressed out male reaction tbh. I'd let it go, especially as he apologised later on.

I now have a mental image of him with a cat on a lead and a pissed off expression which is making me

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OrmIrian · 04/12/2009 14:56

cat was in a box. But she escaped at one point and DS#2 and DD were running around trying to catch her

You are right. I think he might have been feeling a bit hard done by as well as I've been out a lot visiting dad and helping mum out.

I just thought a quick hug and some kind words would be forthcoming. But hey....

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OrmIrian · 04/12/2009 16:07

Thing is there is more to this.

Years ago when FIL was dying of cancer I was pregnant and not quite as supportive of DH as he thought I should be. Or as I might have been I guess. I tried but DH went completely off the rails for a while - I was trying to cope with full-time job and pregnancy. Was hard to keep being sympathetic for months and months while DH got drunk, went AWOL for days on end, fucked up his degree, didn't speak to me. Since then DH has been distinctly cool whenever I have expressed concern about my dad's health. He had been great this time - really lovely - but I am just wondering if this was related to FIL in some way.