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Four years on.......

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pineapplecube · 16/10/2009 21:34

Nearly four years since we got back together after he left me for another woman. We were apart for 18 months. He had other infidelities while we were married but I never knew about any of them until we had split up.

Sad I know but I still don't trust him and I don't think I can go on living this way...

When you first get back together it is like a part of you is held back and after a while you soften and feelings come back and THAT is when it hurts, when the guard comes down.

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megmums · 16/10/2009 21:42

Sorry to hear you are feeling like this. I read it takes 2 to 3 years to get over an affair? Why do you not trust him now, is the relationship better?

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HappyWoman · 17/10/2009 08:54

Are you still both getting help - i think you probably never get over it - you just learn to live with it - either together as a team or apart.

Trust - still trying to let my gaurd down in certain areas 3 years on.

I do trust myself more now - and that is a help.

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