DH and I have been married for 15 years with 3DC. He has never been one for being open with his feelings. His family are not very affectionate and this obviously stems from there.
In the early days, whenever I would tell him that I loved him, he would just say me too. I was happy with that.
Years down the line, and the "me too" has disappeared and he cannot say anything now. It sounds harsh, but he is actually quite cold. He never shows me any affection at all, and I am now starting to question as to whether or not he loves me.
He is a great dad and I cant actually fault him on anything as a husband other than that. But, its quite lonely to live with no affection at all (other than sex). Ive asked him about this and he just gets all shirty and wont talk about it.
He does manage to show affection to the DC and has no problem saying I love you to them.
A typical example of how he is, is that last week I was poorly and he told me to go to bed and he would see to the DC. I know thats great, but not once did he ask how I was or give me a cuddle. The next day I mentioned that it would have been nice and he said that he thought he was being nice by leaving me alone.
Sometimes, I wonder if the way he has been brought up (his parents never told him they loved him) is the reason why he finds it hard to show love, or, does he love me in his own way.
When I try to speak to him about it he says that I have been reading too many magazines.
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mariemarie · 14/09/2009 14:28
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