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DollyPS · 09/08/2009 17:59

I know this lass and well the other day there I have found out she doesnt even like me and its upset me a bit.

I dont have a lot of RL friends as my so called friends backed my ex then and then a lot more came out I wont bore you with.

I thought we were friends but I overheard her say to her husband oh not her again and then I saw her face to face and she just smiled sweetly at me. I was seething at this point and my phone rang so I made my excuses.

I havent done anything to her and we met through our husbands because of their work.

I know that I shouldnt let it bother me but it does.

Writing it down seems to make me feel sad actually but I can move on from this I know I can.

I do have other friends but the are scattered far and wide sadly.

Just feeling sorry for myself and needed to vent.

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stings · 09/08/2009 18:28

I would say f*ck her and move on with your life. She's very obviously two-faced so you have two options - pull her on it or completely ignore her from now on.

I'm similar as a lot of my very close friends moved about after uni so I don't get as much opprotunity to see them nowadays.

I have however met a lot of people through work, friends of friends etc that I try to make the effort to go out with regularly.

It sounds like your self-confidence has taken a bit of a battering with your past friendships and maybe you need to learn how to trust people again.

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mrsboogie · 09/08/2009 18:30

oh, that isn't nice, it would upset anyone hearing that. Perhaps she is a bit jealous of you?

I wouldn't bother with her again if I were you. She is probably not worth it, two faced mare.

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DollyPS · 09/08/2009 18:33

Past friendships mmm well a lot of them where screwing my now ex husband so that does dent it some what but I have turned a corner and I will just ignore her from now on.

Just needed to vent a bit.

It does take a lot for me to trust but I do get there in the end

Thanks

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skidoodle · 09/08/2009 18:37

If you find it difficult to make and hold on to friends maybe there is something you're doing that's alienating people?

Is there a good friend you trust that you found ask about this?

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mrsboogie · 09/08/2009 18:41

your friends were screwing your ex husband?

my, you were unlucky! no wonder you are bit hesitant.

that's awful

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DollyPS · 09/08/2009 19:09

yup they were and the best bit was I had flung him out over the last one and they came out of the woodwork and wanted to stay friends with me. beggars belief that one eh.

Oh well you live and learn eh.

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aRLcat · 09/08/2009 20:41

Dolly, after what you've experienced, overhearing this duplicitous twat is in some regards quite fortunate. She sounds like the last kind of person you need in your life, not only two-faced but rude and spineless!

Hold out for friends worth having, they are out there

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