Apologies in advance for typos, am writing on my phone.
DH and I have been together for 12 years and have 2 children. Pre children we were a bit fiery (I have a temper, he is classic passive-aggressive) and since children we really struggle to communicate(I shout, he walks off).
He is a kind man and a good fatherbut frankly, he irritates the hell out of me. He will do anything I ask domestically etc but I have to ask and give detailed instructions and I feel like I have 3 children to look after. We are no longer intimate and I don't think I am in love with him anymore. I just seem to have lost all respect for him because he needs so much looking after. We bicker a lot because he is often grumpy and I am often cross.
Anyway, typing it I know it sounds petty, but I really don't want to be in a loveless marriage. Looking after him as well as the children makes me feel drained and we are definitely no longer equal partners.
So, what to do? Has anyone felt like this and then had things improve? Should I just accept that this is marriage or should I cut my losses and give both of us a chance of finding happiness elsewhere (or alone- solitude seems very attractive to ne at the moment).
Brutal honesty appreciated as I have lost perspective.
Thank you
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clemette · 01/08/2009 19:21
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