What to expect from "Couples Counselling"?

[Rabbitheartedgirl]

DH seems to be treating it like an operation, that once we've done it everything will be fixed and hunky dory

I think I view it as an opportunity to talk to someone neutral about our problems.

I don;t necessarily think it's going to solve anything.

Neither of us really know what to expect.

[Dior]

It didn't solve anything for us. It made things worse if I am honest. I have heard that it can do wonders, but I would think that both parties have to want to be open and accepting of criticism. Mine wasn't.

[Rabbitheartedgirl]

I think that is what I am afraid of, Dior.

We have been rumbling on with this for years, both putting our heads in the sand.

I think it may be too late.

I would like to hear some positive stories, though.

[Thunderbird4]

You both need to go into it wanting it to work. Any relationship deserves working for. All councillors do is to get you to communicate and by doing that they may help you to find the source of the problem. It's probably two sided and they'll offer some advice. It may not be easy, but it'll either mend or break.
Good luck

[StirlingTheStrong]

As Dior says - you must both be doing this because you really want your relationship to work.

If one is doing it just to please the other, then it probably wont work.

My h went along but always said it wouldn't help and wasn't happy being there so, you know what??? It didn't help!

Truly hope it helps you