Not sure whether this is the right topic, or if indeed I can help her but I just need to write it down because there isnt anyone I can really talk to.. dp tells me I should mind my own business... perhaps he's right?
My mum has always battled with her weight (and depression, and under active thyroid). She was seriously overweight - think sizee 32, so at the begining of 2008 joined ww, as she knew that not only was being this size limiting her lifestlye, it was going to cut short her life if she didnt sort it out.
She did really well, loosing 7 stone in a year, and getting down to a size 20. TBH perhaps she did too well, and was almost obsessed with her weight, some days eating less than 600 calories.
We all went on holiday at begining of April, all inclusive, but she was determined that she was going to swim every day, and eat sensibly, unfortunately she didnt, and at times she was going back for seconds/thirds of every course
When we got back from holiday I hoped that she would get back on to it, but she didnt, she stopped going to WW, saying that she could manage better at home herself, but it never actually happened, 1 week off the diet turned into 1 month which has turned into 3 months. She occasionally starts again, agin limiting herself to a ridiculously low amount of calories, but it never lasts.
I'm getting married towards the end of the year, and she was determined that she was going to be a size 16, but if things carry on the way they are she'll back to a 30
I desperately want to talk to her about it, to try and encourage her to get back onto the diet (sensibly) but I know that as soon as I mention it she'll get all defensive, say that she cant do it, and get really upset. She'll probably turn it round to say that I too am killing myself as I smoke about 5 a day
I really dont know what to do, I was and am so proud of her - the difference to her life has been unbelievable - she struggled to put her own shoes on before, had to ask for a seat belt extenstion on planes and couldnt walk more than 100 yards without getting out of breath, but since she lost the weight she could do all these things and more. I want to help her, but I cant, and I'm frightened that she's not going to be around to see her grandson grow up. He's 2, and I worried before that she wouldnt be able to catch him if he ran off
Any advice would be greatly appreciate.
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iheartginashoes · 30/06/2009 16:15
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