DH and I been together nearly 18 years, married nearly 15. Two DC - DD 12 (today!) and DS nearly 6. Always had turbulent argumentative relationship.
We both work, he doesn't help etc etc basicaly last weekend blew up big time I said I would leave and actually packed a bag but realised at the time was rather hasty and had nowhere to go lol
My gripes - DH doesn't help, doesn't get involved with the children, spends most of his time at home attached to his mobile phone or laptop.
His gripes - I talk to him aggressively, when he does help I tell him he hasn't done it right (which majority of time he hasn't or hasn't finished job) and I'm not affectionate enough.
I am fully appreciative that it isn't all him but we keep 'trying again' and I am just not sure what to do now. How many times can you 'try again' when should you just call it 'quits'.
He has tried to help me more before but he says my picking at him makes him not want to bother anymore but i'm frustrated that he cannot carry out the simplest task properly ie clear ALL the table, put ALL the dishes in the dishwasher etc etc
I realise you can't tell me what to do but some advice would be great as really not sure where to go from here. I have made an appt to view a bungalow to rent on Monday but of course can cancel that.
Help . Sorry this is long and I hope it makes sense.
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wangle99 · 13/06/2009 09:14
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