We've split up, anything else I need to do?

[NatalieJane]

Have got an application for council housing being posted out, have called tax credits to change it from 'our' claim, to mine, have just applied for a bank account to have any benefits payed into, other than sorting stuff out to do with schools (will be moving back down south to near my family), and obviously we have a house to sell (anyone want it?!!) no savings or anything, is there anything I've not thought of?

BTW, this isn't a thread for asking if I'm OK on! I'm fine, just need to get the practical stuff sorted out.

[wannaBe]

Sorry, can't be of any practical help, but as I saw your name as the op couldn't not reply.

Am thinking of you.

[NatalieJane]

Thank you

[Overmydeadbody]

Make sure if any utility bills are in your name that you get that changed before you move out of the house.

[NatalieJane]

Nope all bills are in his name, only joint one is the mortgage, oh and the telly license is in my name for some reason Will get onto it thanks.

Anything else?

[glaskham]

I think you've got it all covered in what you've said you've done so far.

Thinking of you and the boys.

[mrsmortenharket]

not sure of the history behind your move but have you got important papers at trusted friend's house? things like passports, birth certificates etc

[Kayzr]

Oh Nat, so sorry.

Thinking of you!!

Make sure any bills in your name get changed and everything that is in both names gets changed to either yours or his.

[NatalieJane]

No, well, I don't think I need to do anything as drastic as that.

I think I've got it covered, have racked brains and I can't come up with anything else.

[glaskham]

I'm gathering you'll need to sort some agreement for DH to see the DC's? can that be done in a civilized way without the need for courts etc? If not you may need to get the ball rolling on that as soon as you've moved down south.

[NatalieJane]

No, it will be amicable.

[Kayzr]

Thats good then. Are you being housed up there for the time being or are you applying for where your family are?

[glaskham]

Well i think you've got everything in hand. How soon are you planning to move back down south? once you sell or before? or once you get a CH down there?

[glaskham]

X-post Kayz!!

[NatalieJane]

Well they are sending the application form, so once I can get it back to them, then we'll be off. Am hoping I can get DS1 into school down there as close to the start of the next half term as possible.

I hated always being the 'new girl' (dad in army - constantly moving about) want him to go in and get it over with before Septemeber start back.

Kay, we'll stay here till they give us somewhere down there.

[Kayzr]

i hope it all goes well for you! i'm sure ds1 will settle in quickly.

[Overmydeadbody]

I hope you get rehoused quickly. It took months and months for DS and I

[NatalieJane]

OMDB, really?

Well, we'll have to take it as it comes I suppose!

[BCNS]

sounds like you have most things covered. Only things I can think of are council tax,water,gas/electric, tv,car insurences, other insurances, any medical/dental, savings/bank accounts/ sort something out with mortgage company ( even if it's just letting them know), any loans or finance.

can't think of much more..

good luck

[NatalieJane]

With the mortgage, is it as simple as me taking my name off of it? I've, personally, never paid a penny into it, don't want the house, not interested in it at all, so if that makes it better from the point of view of getting re-housed?

Obviously he can do what with it, sell it or stay, that's up to him.

[NatalieJane]

Sorry he can do what he wants with it....

[Kayzr]

i'm not sure. i think it would probably be quite easy. i mean people split up or one partner dies everyday.

Also a friend who split up with her dp got him to send a letter to the council saying he wanted her out asap. He didn't mind her staying for a while but it got her a house quicker.

[sorkycakey]

I think everythings been mentioned
child benefit
council tax for single person to sort out
take name off all the bills

If he's agreed to take responsibility for any debt you have jointly the contact those companies too.
With the house I think you'd have to speak to the mortgage lender, as I suspect if it's a joint debt, then the deeds will be the same and will need a solicitor to change them

Might you be better seeking a separation agreement which can lay all these things out formally, as well as custody, maintenance etc?

[juleswastink]

oh dear nj hope all ok sounds like you have thought everything through

[lastboxoftampons]

NJ - hope everything is okay and you get it all sorted. Thinking of you and the boys...