I moved in with my partner and his daughter (and my son) two months ago.
Things are ok but his daughter just drives me crazy and I don't know if it's normal 11 year old behaviour and I'm being unreasonable or if I'm justified in feeling this way.
She just seems to seek attention constantly. She gets up in a morning and refuses to make any breakfast or any drink ... she just flops on the sofa and moans that she's tired/hungry/thirsty etc. My son gets his own breakfast and gets himself ready for school and he's 2 years younger ... yet I'm expected to run around after her as if she's incapable of doing anything herself.
And then she never knows where anything is for school and expects everyone else to run around looking for it. By this time my DS is stood waiting near the door ready to leave.
If it was just this, it wouldn't be so bad but it's other stuff too. If me and her dad are on the sofa watching TV, she will come and sit ON him and won't move. Makes up stuff like she's ill, has headache, is "too tired to go to bed" etc etc. It drives me insane, especially if we've just sat down to watch a movie.
Everything is a huge drama with her. She's CONSTANTLY tell-tailing on my DS and sits there slagging him off for no reason. This was what she said to me an hour ago...
"Don't you think it's funny that DS thinks he's going to be rich when he's older? it's so funny because you have to be like ... CLEVER to earn money and I can just see him in a few years living in some crummy flat in a crap job with no money and he'll still think he's going to be rich one day"
And then there's the constant boasting ... constant talking (I mean CONSTANT talking ... just going on and on and on for hours)
I'm just finding it really hard to live with her
Like yesterday we were really busy in the garden ...
"dad .... dad ... dad come here a minute ... dad come and look at this .... dad can you find me my bag? I need it now ..... dad where is my DS? .... dad I've got a rash, come and look .... "
We got sod all done because he kept running off to false "emergencies" all day.
I'm trying to be understanding but it's very, very hard. It's not like she has no time with her dad because 3 nights a week me and DS go out from 5.30 until 8.30pm
She refuses to join any clubs or do anything for herself. I find myself rolling my eyes whenever she starts moaning etc....
It's doomed isnt it? are all 11 year olds like this??
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LadyInPurple · 10/05/2009 19:24
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