Am having terrible arguments with my parents and my sister and don't know what to do next. My sister and her husband are both very selfish people and do whatever they want without any thought for other people which is fine so long as it doesn't impact on my life. They make plans with us, only to cancel at the last minute because something better has come up, they phone up with "domestic emergencies" and expect us to come running to fix the problem or to lokk afetr their children, the list goes on. We have tried to talk to them about ti but this always ends up in arguments. her husband is not very nice and is often rude on the phone, refusing to let her speak to me etc. Recently I have decided enough is enough and have taken to refuse politely but firmly when they phone with unreasonable requests and have started to refuse to make plans with them so that they don't have the opportunity to cancel. Problem is my parents are now taking sides. They don't like the fact that the family is no longer "close" (that's a laugh) and although they acknowledge that we are treated badly think that my husband and I should just put up and shut up for the sake of family harmony. I think secretly they are afraid that if they say anyhting to my sister and he husband he will become abusive to them/ her too. I know in the past he has threatened to move away, preventing them form keeping in touch with her and her children. How do I make peace with what is going on? I'm not the type of person who can keep quiet despite trying so hard I eventually blow my top. I don't want to fall out with parents but feel that for my own sanity I have to distance myself form all of them. Problem is, this isn't good enough for my parents who want us all to play happy families.
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