OK, can you help me with this little family issue please. My DB is coming to stay with my parents this weekend. We don,t see him that often so the plan is to spend most of the weekend with them. My DB is a lovely man (though I say it myself) and SIL is pretty OK too. They have a 13yr old son and a 9 yr old daughter. DD and my niece get on very well. DS#2 just mucks in with everyone and gets indulged . DS#1 gets on OK with my nephew although they are very different types. Problem is that niece is basically a little pampered, usually at the expense of my nephew (it's blatantly obvious to any outside observer and I know it's not just my parents and I that have noticed it). Nephew is a good sort, a bit socially and physically awkward but a very affectionate and intelligent child, though his mum and dad are always criticising him in comparison with his younger sister. Niece is always getting him into trouble, telling on him for silly little things, and no-one ever seems to call her on it. I don't even begin to understand why. It's hurtful to see.
However I don't see it's my business to say anything to them, I just spend a lot of time telling him (and them) how clever I think he is, how good he is with my youngest, how sensible etc. Because he is. But the other problem is that when they are here, niece turns her attention to my eldest son . He is always getting into trouble when he has done nothing to her. At the end of the visit both he and I are both feeling a bit emotionally bruised . He gets seriously fed up and I can see him refusing to come and see them when they are here.
Do I force him to come? Do I say something to DB? Do I just tell him to grin and bear it. As we only see them perhaps twice a year is it worth causing a rift?
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What do I do about my niece and DS#1?
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OrmIrian · 09/04/2009 12:00
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