Brief background - before Xmas I discovered DP of 13 years was having an emotional affair with an ex from 20yrs ago. They hadn't met up but were phoning/texting, talking of meeting-up, what they still felt for each other etc.
Anyway I asked him to leave which he did but after a few days we talked, made-up, agreed to start again, go to Relate etc
Everything has been going really well. We've managed to spend lots of time togtehr as a couple (without the DC) and as a family -generally making more of an effort. Sex-life has improved x10. More considerate and appreciative of each other in day to day life etc etc
Now the problem -here we are nearly 3 months on and I suddenly feel quite flat and low.
Is this some sort of delayed reaction to what happened?
I find myself realising the enormity of what nearly happened (splitting up) and even thinking that if I hadn't have given him a "second chance" then maybe I would be over the worst of it by now and sorting myself out in a new life, wondering if maybe thats what I should have done.
I also hate the feeling of the loss of trust - never quite knowing whats round the corner ie. one day he could turn round and say hes back in contact with the OW. I'm worried that this will be with me forever.
I do love him and I want us to stay together and be a family so why do I feel so low?
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Things were going well and now I feel as if I've taken several steps back (life after DPs emotional affair)
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candystick · 16/03/2009 20:06
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