please help me sort this one out.

[benbon]

ok so i took the kids away for the weekend got back on monday... ad thought oh ill have a look on the emails, and i see my husband has got a email from some woman saying

"you realised things have changed so dropped me like a hot potato,friendship not good enough hey! dont worry about contacting me again dude!"

i was thinking thats really strange but am not completely sure what it was about..so i told my husband that i was angry with him and he would find out why cue ten minutes later and he has deleted his facebook account!! this obviously sets alarm bells ringing..

so i thought im gonnna bluff this i told him that i emaild the lady before he deleted the account and that she had emailed me back but i wanted to hear in his words what had gone on.

so he tells me that friday night he was lonely and bored and missing me and the kids (bear in mind we only went fri morning and he didnt get home from wort till 7.30pm) so he decided to have a few drinks and called this woman he admits that they flirted but im not sure what kind of flirting... then he told me that he invited her to come round to our home on the sat night!!!!!!!!!!!
he then went on to say that he work up sat morning feeling guilty so cancelled....

im just so angry with him to me that is cheating and what makes it worse is that we have only been married 6 months...
help me please. is that still classed as cheating..

my complete f**kwit of a husband

[OneLieIn]

Oh benbon, sorry to hear this. Have you talked to him in more detail about why he did this and what actually went on.

You're lucky you found out.

I guess you need to have it out with him - can you do that?

[benbon]

i was so angry last night i kicked him out..

[blinks]

i don't blame you

[AnyFucker]

don't blame you

that is cheating in my book

I think you need to dig deeper

he is lying to you, this story does not add up

is this woman someone he has regular contact with? who is she? how long has he known her?

this is very very fishy, expect him to lie and lie, there is more to this

[HOLLY23]

Agree with AF, all sounds fishy, and yes he will lie. There is more to this then he is letting on, so do you want to know everything? Can you check his mobile phone? home telephone bill - is it itemised? How well do you know his work colleagues? can you start meeting him for lunch etc? How has he been with you? have you noticed any changes in him?

[AnyFucker]

I would be prepared to find out something you really don't like, it depends how far you want to go.

Accept and bow out of this now and be forever wondering.....

Let him make it up to you and treat this like a "blip" and start to take more care of your relationship.

Or.... push it until you are completely satisfied. I know what I would do.

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

agree with AF
thou it's upto you where you want to take things

[benbon]

im trying to get the whole truth out of him but obviously he is not very willing... we have been together for 7 and a half years married for 6months...

i just dont know what to do. i feel like he has cheeted but i dont think he physically has...

i am just so annoyed with him. the kids and i have gone to my mums.

[HOLLY23]

Hi Benbon, have you had any more thoughts on what you want to do, and where you want to take this? Many women often say they want to know everything when really it is just enough for them to have reassurance from their H that there will be no more issues with this type of behaviour.