DP and I have been together for nearly 5 years. DS is now 2. I belived that we very much had the same ideals to good behaviour, morals etc.
It is becoming more apparent that his approach to dicipline is different to mine.
I am home 4 days a week and do most of the child care etc. I have the approach, to pick my battles. DS is very much pushing his boundaries at the moment. I just sit it out if he is having a tamtrum, regardless of where we are, if possible.
We both praise him loads and interact with him etc etc.
Last night 2 things happened that have caused me concnern. My parents were visiting DS was tired and it was way past bed time as they were leaving. DS does not know them well and did not want to kiss them goodbye. DP sat him on the bottom step and told him he will kiss them, this went ont for a few mins and DS tearfully did as he was told. I was heartbroken.
Later on, we discussed this as I felt it was unecessary, DP said he wanted DS to behaviour etc etc. I explained he is only 2 and still very much a baby. His answer was that he wanted DS to be scared of him and therfore respect him, like he had his father.
I am speechless, why would you want your child to be scared of you.
I agreed that I could be firmer with him as I too want him to be 'good' etc but I explained that I felt that his tone was aggressive and needed to be less so.
I got no where, I can not see how we can find any middle ground here. I also can not let this go.
Suggestions please?
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Eve34 · 13/10/2008 08:10
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