How do I get through a day that has turned bad from 6am

[Chiccadum]

Aaaaaaaaaagggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh Men. My dh annoyed me this morning as soon as he woke up. For the last couple of mornings I have got up with dd2 and let him have an extra hour, but today because he is full of cold when dd2 woke he brought her in our bed and we all know how gentle 11 month olds are when they are trying to open your eyes and pretend they are dentists . Because I turned my back (which he does EVERY morning and left him to deal with her he stomped out of bed downstairs banging as he went and then slammed the living room door and when i came downstairs and asked him why the mood he didn't want to talk about it. It seems he can't cope when I treat him or do the same to him as he does to me. I just asked him for some honey in my Lemsip and you would have thought it was the end of the world. When he's ill, he feels the worst, even though I was up with dd2 during the night as she was ill and he was (surprise surprise, snoring) every time she woke up. I've NEVER woken him to go to her but he does me, he elbows me in the ribs or kicks out (all whilst in his sleep of course)so I have to go to her, if he does ever hear her he is sighing, huffing and puffing all the way out of bed and across the landing and bounces into bed waking me as he goes along. Does anyone else have to put up with such childish and pig headed behaviour.

How am I going to get through the day, we have to go out later and I really don't want to talk to him Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeellllllllllllllppppppppppp

[Gizmo]

Chiccadum

Ouch!!! I hate it when this happens - a lot of men can be great when everything is going their way but if they are even slightly stressed or sick they can be total pain in the a**e. They conveniently forget that their partners also have stress and sickness in their lives but manage to carry things on.

Not much advice to give as I don't know your other half but I have to say in my relationship my response would probably be point out (as calmly as I could) that I didn't want 'that' (being as specific as possible) to happen again and then go and arrange to do something else rather than go out with my DH. This works for me as my DH is usually a reasonable sort and prepared to acknowledge if he's been unfair, but I know plenty of other guys don't work that way.

Anyway, mucho, mucho sympathy - is there anything you can do today that's just for you (and preferably a bit naughty, like large box of chocolates in the cinema on your own?).

[SimonHoward]

Chiccadum

Nice to see I'm not the only one with an 11 month old wannabe dentist (mine prefers grabbing my tongue if she can though and pulling it).

I have to say that there are times when both DW and I end up despairing at each other but as I am a light sleeper I tend to be up at the first sound whereas DW could have a bomb dropped and not wake up.

His attitude is unreasonable though.

Sobernow

What is a full nights sleep? I can't recall my last one, and I wish it was my DD that was the one causing me to wake up most of the time.

[Nutjob]

Chiccadum, I know exactly how you feel. 99.9% of the time it is me who gets up when the children cry out in the night. The other night I woke up to here ds crying and calling out 'Daddy, Daddy!!', I nudged dh and told him to go and see what was wrong. He did, then when he got back proceeded to have a go at me for waking him up, when I pointed out his son was shouting for him, not me, he just moaned about how tired he was as he'd been at work all day, as if being a SAHM isn't tiring, and that I should have got up. So much for paternal love!!