i work nearly full time in quite a demanding job; i do all the housework and we have a dd, who i sort everything out for, which i obviously don't mind. my dh works very hard and long hours and i feel like we don't get that much time together, which i really miss. i've been reading that stuff about blokes who do more in the house have better sex - well, i think we proved it last night
dh has been away on a course, but ultimately it was a holiday. and i feel like i sacrificed a lot for him to go - family time, a holiday together, a holiday full stop, had to rearrange my work, all chores etc (yes i know i sound self-absorbed). he came home and asked if he could go to bed for a nap, then when he got up and sat on his arse watching me make tea, tidy up, he turned his nose up at getting dd ready for bed, but he did (she has really missed him, as have i). he then sat on the pc while i tidied around him. i commented that he could be helping so we could sit down together (not having seen each other all week), a hint he didn't take and then he noticed i was getting peed off, so i told him why: ultimately i think he is a selfish pig and i feel completely undervalued. he didn't say anything which generally means he recognises what i'm on about.
anyway, he then said he was going to bed about 9.40 and went and he wasn't bothered whether i joined him or not i did go up, because i wanted to be near him but he went to sleep and so i came downstairs again in tears.
dd woke up in the night - i got up, then got up really early this morning came in our room and he went into her room so i am exhausted again because of his selfishness.
i am still hurt and upset and angry this morning because how can he be so selfish and be so unbothered. we haven't seen each other for a week and he hasn't done anything to help us get some time together, he hasn't considered me at all.
he probably thinks i'm being unreasonable and nagging (perhaps i am) but how can he not see, him doing sod all to help and aim towards some time together is really hurtful especially when he has had a holiday. he didn't even thank me for him being away perhaps that's the worst bit as i feel completely under-appreciated.
thanks if you got this far, i feel better for ranting.
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stillhurting · 13/07/2008 08:03
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