Help is this acceptable behaviour

[confusedmom]

Hi this is my first posting and I am looking for some impartial advice.
Is it ok for dp to stop me from leaving the house when I am about to explode? I have a 6 month old and a todler and the baby is still waking 1-2 time a night and i am knackered, we were supposed to be doing stuff to the house the other day and i was so tired asked dp if i could crash out for an hour when the baby fell asleep, baby woke after 40 mins and I still felt so tired i asked if i could sleep for a bit more, he said he was busy and I lost it and said I needed a break from the kids as I had had an awfull week and just wanted to go out for a bit. He wanted me to stay and things got pretty heated with him physicaly stopping my from leaving while holding the baby, I feel awfull as I was crying and screaming in front of my toddler who was very upset and I know I should not have behaved like that. We have been arguing loads and there are lots of other issues but is it out of order to stop someone from leaving the house or a room? this has happened a few times in the past before. I kn
Also when I was pregnant and on the computer I thought he was looking at my compter screen while I was on my E mail from his computer upstairs as my mouse moved on its own, he denied this and I thought no more of it and then he admited in a row that he had looked at my e mail as he needed to see what I was wriiting about.......a whole other story there so not going into it..... then he said he realsied it was out of order, I know he has read texts on my phone before but he either denies it or justifies this as needing to know about certain situations. I am exhausted by constant rows and feeling at the end of my teather with everything and realy confused and would appreciate anyones advice or opinion on wether I am getting stressed over nothing

[umberella]

mm doesn't sound great tbh.

[posieflump]

do you love him/?
Would he consider Relate to discuss his jealousy issues?
do you hink you could have pnd as you sound so down
do you have friends/family who could help out? give you about of time off, or a night out with him to discuss all this?

[youcannotbeserious]

Personally, no, I don't think it's OK for him to stop you leaving the house but from the other stuff you've said, it sounds like he has some trust issues...

But, why would he not continue to let you sleep? I don't understand that, if he didn't want you to leave the house and you were knackered why did you just not stay in bed?

[JacobsPrincess]

Sounds like he has real trust issues. It's not right to stop someone leaving house/ room, physically or emotionally.
Could you try and have a discussion when everything is calm and you are both relaxed? Explain how tiring it is with 2 very young children and that you need a little "me" time.

[mumtofour]

Hi Confusedmom
Big hugs to you first coz it sounds like you need one. Having a toddler and a baby is both emotionally and physically tiring with very little time left for yourself. Also if you are trying to do stuff around the house it is no wonder you are getting tired and stressed. I don't think your DH should have stopped you from going out but it is hard to know if he did this coz he was worried about letting you go out so upset. When we lose control of our emotions we obviously make rash decisions and say things we don't mean. Perhaps a time for you to both talk and you tell him how you feel may be a good starting point.