Hi.
2 years ago I had a late missed miscarriage, when I was living apart from my DH. He couldn't get back in time to be with me for the D&C or the immediate emotional aftermath. However, I do think he appreciates how I felt, and he was also devastated. I'm pregnant now, 20 + 3, and going a bit doolally. I'm anxious, weepy and not bonding with the baby, which I feel guilty about. Some night I feel like I want to talk to him about it and he's usually pretty good, but last night he got annoyed, and said that he doesn't like to think about the past and has said all he has to say about it. I understand that he is also worried and deals with it differently, and it might make him feel worse to talk it over, but am I wrong to think I'm more important?
I told him that with that attitude I would stop telling him how I feel and deal with it on my own which upset him and he made me say I wouldn't do that, so he is trying. It's also made worse by the fact that we have our 20 wk scan this week and he's adamant he doesn't want to find out. He has said I can but that's not the point. I've tried everything...but he's not budging. I feel it would help me to bond with the baby and see it as a real person, and again, I think he should give me this concession. Do you think I'm being selfish? I kind of think he should do/say whatever to make me feel better but I know that's ignoring his feelings - and I feel so guilty that I'm being such a pain sometimes (irrational I know) and that we aren't enjoying this pregnancy.
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ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 28/04/2008 08:00
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