Have name changed ....its not a recent thing, l have known for around 16 years of our 17 year relationship. No one but me knows, for obvious reasons cannot talk to anyone we know. Have two small DC.
DP seems to be taking things to another level in past months, wanting to go out dressed at night etc. Up until now l had been supportive as l could, perhaps too accomodating in retrospect, but feel uncomfortable about where this is going.
Had a disagreement on Friday (unrelated) so l decided to go and visit my folks for the weekend with the kids, leave him to stew l thought ... email from him monday, he had spent some of the weekend 'dressed up' at home, then drove out to a remote part of town and walked up and down in the dark before coming home. He says he feels liberated but confused.
We both agree the children should never see him dressed, so he does it only at night, usually the weekends when they are in bed. But as they get older it will become more difficult.
Our sex life is non-existent at the moment, part having two DC under 3, still BFing 8 month old and trying to lose weight so l do not feel confident, but also l find seeing him in female clothes more and more a turn off.
When it was only occasional l could deal with it, it is part of the man l love, but it seems to be becoming more of a life style now and not a fetish thing.
l don't know what to do ... l fear 20 years down the line, DC are making their own lives and l am told by DP he wants to go and live out his desires, whatever they might be.
How can l give him an ultimatum ? you cannot repress something like this, l know he has tried several times over the years.
But l really cannot see how his needs fit with those of a young and growing family ??
anyone else any experience ...
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anyone have a DP who cross dresses .... need someone to talk to please
mumtotwopickles · 23/04/2008 12:12
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