About 5 years ago I met a man. He was everything I looked for in a man and had strong feelings for him and he used to shower me with compliments and tell me he loved me but about a year after we met I found out he was actually with a woman and had been for a good number of years and actually lived with her and her teenage sons. How I didn't find out earlier, i'll never know but it really devastated me and of course I finished it. I really couldn't get him out of my mind though and a number of times he would call, tell me he'd finished with her and we'd end up back together. Incredibly stupid of me looking back as very reliable sources told me he was still in fact with his girlfriend, about to get married even once over, but that was then called off.
So eventually I had enough and grew some backbone and told him that under no uncertain circumstances that we would get back together. I just wanted to be loved and after an abusive relationship previously I just wanted to feel security which he could never give me. Fast forward 2 years and he'd left her, moved down to the Midlands so start a new life and invited me down. I went and he told me how much he loved me etc and wanted me back...we ended up sleeping together and when I came back up here after the break, barely heard from him which I know doesn't happen if someone is supposed to love and care about you and it was always me who had to go down there, he would never not once attempt to come see me here. Eventually I cut all contact and my mobile broke, which was a blessing in disguise as I didn't have his number, he only had my other working phones number but has never attempted once to call me in around a year until today that is.
So he called me. I was suprised to hear from him of course. We talked about how each other were and what we've been up to. He asked if I was seeing someone and foolishly I said no. With hindsight I should've said i'm happily engaged to a lovely man (i'm not of course, but what a smack in the mouth that would've been). He then went on to talk sexually which made me feel like I ever was and will be to him is a shag when he feels like it, which is probably true so I said I had to go. He's now said he will call me back later after work. I know for sure he will ask me to go down to see him and of course I will say no...I am stronger than that person I used to be but to make him really sorry for hurting me I am thinking of saying to him that I can't go as i'm actually very happy with someone but what excuse can I give to why I told him i'm single before? I just really want to give him a final punch in the bollox for having the audacity to call me after all he's done to me. Why are some men such tossers?!?!
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LolaTheShowgirl · 27/01/2008 16:02
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