I've been with my partner for a year and this christmas was our first together. We went to his parents.
Firstly, before we went he kept going on about how they were giving him money to put towards a £700 tv. (we don't like together yet).
Anyway when we got there his mum handed him a load of presents and gave him £100. He looked confused at the money and started on his presents and the first one was a gold watch to which he kind of pulled a face at , the rest of it was normal bits and pieces, aftershave, clothes etc and personally I thought he'd been given way too much considering he's in his late 30's but it wasnt my place to say so I didnt.
Anyway he didnt hide his disapointment with the watch and his mum noticed and asked him what was wrong with it. He replied "well, I'm just thinking, why? why gold when you know I dont wear gold?" he kind of laughed when he said it but he meant every word.
His mum said "i thought you might like it though" so he started going on about how he wanted a tv and now because he'd "only" got £100 from them he was going to have to skint himself to buy one. he then tried to "explain" that if she'd just given him money like he'd asked he wouldve been able to get the TV and not been stuck with 'a load of shit that he didnt want'.
I was so embarassed and angry at him but his mum actually agreed to take it back to the shop and give him the money!
When we got home I told him I thought he was out of order and so ungrateful and he said "yeah I feel depressed about the whole thing as it is without the guilt trip thanks" then he set about explaining to me that if they'd just done what he'd asked originally none of it would have happened.
I finished my argument by saying "I feel so sorry for your mum" so he replied "I know, oh well, can't be helped".
I know we've been together for a year before this but this has completely made me question how I feel about him.
Am I over-reacting considering it was nothing really to do with me?
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Ungrateful DP
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LikeAnAnimal · 28/12/2007 17:26
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