My heads soup, do I give him another chance

[helpwanted]

My exP and I broke up after i found out about his 'affair' with another women. We had one child and I was 2 months pregnant. I'll never be completely sure what happened he says no sex she says otherwise however unable to deal with the stress while being pregnant I ended the relationship. That was over a year ago, I have no idea wheter he has slept with other people since, he says no I think otherwise. However we were seperated and although I have not slept with anyone I cant help thinking that if hes family was so important how could he think of having sex with someone else.

The thing is he is desperate to come back but has behaved like such and ass during my pregnancy and after I really cant trust him to be a grown up. He says i turned my back on our relationship and didnt even try to work things out and after everything i have done (have had my revenge of sorts)he wants his family back as he has nothing. The thing is all these female friends have come out of the woodwork that I know he socialises with and the ow was a 'friend' also. I know hes not in a relationship but i dont want him to think he can add me to his list of 'buddies', iam worth more than that.

I think I love him rather that just being used to having him around and I think he loves me. We get on well, I just cant help thinking that what do I trust my head or heart, what if he lets me down, am I stupid for giving him another chance.

I know it shouldnt be an issue but I worry if it makes me weak, what people will think, my pride etc.. I know I can do it by myself but it is so hard, I think part of the reason he is the way he is that he was abandonned by both parents and was passed between family members and hostels but can i spend my life trying to fix him? I think I could get over the affair in time but I am just so confused. The other thing is and I know its wrong I just cant get the getting my own back feeling out of my head as I know this would devestate him but it wouldnt be because i dont love hiom or want him just so he knows how it feels.

Sorry this seems rambled and a lot of mixed messages but like i said my head is soup.

[TwinklyfLightAttendant]

Oh dear. I'm sorry you've been through this.
Instantly after reading that my answer is, no, don't let him back.
You will be trying to fix him for years to come, someone so obviously damaged will not be easy (possible, even) to fix...it will destroy you and the children, because (in my opinion) he will let you all down over and over again.
Please be sensible and do the right thing for your children, by giving them the stable life they need - with one committed parent. He is being utterly, utterly selfish and no, he hasn't changed - it is far too soon for that to have taken place.

Sorry to be so down on it but please think very carefully. You don't even trust his word, so is that good enough for someone who will be sharing your home, children etc?
I think probably not.

[TLV]

listen to your gut instinct and what it tells you (its always right) then you will make the right choice