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AIBU to be annoyed that dh......

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Monkeybar · 15/07/2007 21:36

....took 5 pictures of his ex girlfriend at a wedding we were all at?
Bit of a long story, but, dh and I got together after his gf had left him (and their home, where I now live) for his best mate. he met her at college so they still have shared friends, and we have, on occasion, been round to their house socially. I don't dislike the girl and if she and dh hadn't split up, we wouldn;t have met, so she did me a favour, but I get really uptight about how he feels about her (I remember once early on in our relationship, we were at their house, and he left me talking ot his mate's parents while he went to help her in the kitchen (never helps ME in the kitchen if we have friends round!). So anyway, we were at a wedding last weekend, and when we looking through the pictures that he had taken, there were 5 of her in a row! (Admittedly there was another couple in the pics, but she was central to them iyswim). This has really wound me up, but I can't be arsed mentioning it to him, as I know the pattern of what follows and that winds me up even more! So, I wondered - am I being unreasonable, or would you find it a bit hard to swallow?

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dumbledoreisaliveitellyou · 15/07/2007 21:39

i would, tbh, also find it a bit hard to swallow. so fwiw i don't think uanbu
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noonar · 15/07/2007 21:40

i'd feel the same, but it's not as if the pics were of just her. dont be too upset

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Ulysees · 15/07/2007 21:44

I'd be more annoyed about the helping her in the kitchen and not me.

tbh I'd be insanely jealous of contact of this sort but that's just me.

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Monkeybar · 15/07/2007 21:44

Thanks for not making me feel like a neurotic(sp) woman!

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Monkeybar · 15/07/2007 21:47

Just something I have to deal with. I've always tried to be laid back about it all, but it seems that in all areas of my life, as I've got older I've lost confidence and perhaps if I'd kicked off about it before, things like this wouldn't happen now?

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teafortwoandtwofortea · 15/07/2007 21:47

No I don't think you're being neurotic but it's hard to see a solution to your problem. Sorry, must be hard for you.

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WanderingTrelawney · 15/07/2007 21:48

I think it's odd. I think I'd be inclined to avoid taking pics of my exes, personally.

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Ulysees · 15/07/2007 21:49

yes me too wandering, unless it was for the kids to throw darts at

Nope, no advice here either. If it's impossible to avoid contact then don't know what to suggest? I'd hate it though.