another child with ex partner?

[helsbelles]

this is my going a bit crazy, but have a ds of 7 months with ex, (only went out for 6 wks - have been good friends for 3 years) ex v.good with ds, almost 'too good' (is that possible?!) he def. wants us to be all together and we do all spend time together but I don't fancy him and whilst he's wonderful, he gets on my nerves if have too spend much time togther. BUT it has passed my mind recently (perhaps I'm hormonal?) to see if he'd like another ds/dd - mainly as if ds was either of ours only child, I'd feel too much pressure would be put on the poor sausage, plus good to have sibling anyway (and full-blood always a bit better, though I love my half sisters to bits too!). Or am I just being selfish as would love another child to make more of a family and am so scared of not meeting my 'mr right' to have other kids with? anyone else in 'strange' but good/sometimes wibbly relationships with ex's?

[stupidgirl]

Have you discussed this idea with your ex?

[Flossam]

If you thought that he would really understand the arrangement and you feel able to deal with all that another child would bring then it is a possibility. But I would be worried as you mention he would like you all together that this would give him false hope and he may agree in the hope that it will bring you all together again. From what you say he may be dissapointed and could potentially lead to a bitter relationship. You know him best!

[Fairyfly]

You mean have another child and you and your x stay separated?

[helsbelles]

i do mean that we stay seperated - though we were never really togther (can't beleive i'm 30, have a baby, and have never lived with a guy!). he told me last week he'd do anything to have more children with me- even continue living as we do (he's v.bohemian, and actually loves his crazy lifestyle - i used to be the same, but now am more grounded!). but flossam you're right, he would hope - his getting me pregnant 1st time was in an attempt to get us together in the first place - I naivly also thought i'd fall in love with him too, silly me, doesn't work that way! but 'd be interested to hear about others who've got similar relationships with ex's..

[stupidgirl]

It could work, but you'd both have to be very clear where you stand before you entered into anything.