me and dp have been together 16months now. i have a ds 2.4 from previous relationship and he has 3 boys aged between 8 and 13. his boys live with their mum as dp doesn't really live anywhere. He stays with me during the week and at his mum and dads at the weekends with his boys.
ive still not met his boys yet and it doesn't look like im going to any time soon. this does bother me a lot but they are his kids so his decisionand only he can decide when he thinks it is the right time.
i love him so so much and i know he loves me just as much. But because of our situation it just doesn't feel like a proper normal relationship. He has 2 lives... us , and him and his kids. At the weekends i hardly hear from him as he is busy with his boys. This weekend since friday afternoon when i last saw him he has text me about 15 times which is a fraction of what it is during the week or like it used to be. its like he forgets me at the weekends and its horrible.
i love him too much to leave him and to me that isn't an option. But i just want to mentally distance myself a bit as it feels like i think more of our relationship than he does. It took a long while for me to feel ok about bringing my barriers down after getting hurt in the past but i feel like they are slowly going up again
i dont know if what im asking actually makes sense or not
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how do i make myself mentally take a step back from my relationship?
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juicychops · 07/05/2007 15:17
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