Hi everyone, I am 9 weeks pregnant with my first child and have recently come out of a long relationship with the baby's father. We split up because he became paranoid about me cheating on him, which i never did and he smashed his parents house up and was screaming in my face, so I asked a friend to pick me up at 3am because I was scared. After we split up, I found out I was pregnant. His immediate reaction was simply "abort it" and I refused to. I haven't seen him since he smashed the house up which was almost two months ago. We are both very young, and he lives with his parents and I live with mine. When his parents saw the state of their home, they pretty much banned him from talking to me, have made him change his number and block me on all social media. Although he did keep me o facebook until recently and was telling me he still loved me and that we would be together once his family calmed down. Then all of a sudden he blocked me. He has since been in contact with my stepmum, saying that he will be a father to this baby, which is great, but he has said to her that he cannot stand me and wants absolutely no contact with me until the baby arrives, and about an hour after having this conversation with her he messaged her saying I should have an abortion. I feel extremely confused and hurt, because I don't feel like I did anything wrong, and I still have masses of feelings for him. If he turns up to a scan its going to be incredibly awkward and I don't know whether to act like what he's doing is okay and just smile and bear it, or whether to just ignore him. Any advice?
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unsure what to do about my ex (baby's father)
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user1484599574 · 16/01/2017 21:21
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