That's it in a nutshell really. I have been with my DP for over a year. He has severe anxiety and when I first met him (through a friend online) he didn't even leave the house. As we began chatting he came out of his shell and out of his house, and now he is a very long way from his former self.
HOWEVER. He still self medicates with cannabis, has missed several Addaction appointments that have been set up for him to start cutting down the amount he smokes, and is constantly running out of money. (He doesn't borrow from me but his anxiety goes through the roof and he is nitpicky, overreacting to everything and sulky).
All his promises to get help have come to nothing. I have over the past year gone to his GP with him, paid for him to see a therapist and arranged for him to speak to a drugs counsellor. It has all gone by the wayside.
He adores me and says I am everything to him. The thought of us breaking up makes him cry. He is sweet and kind and tries his hardest to do little things for me to please me. He has said on many occasions, when he is feeling down, that he knows I could do better than him and that I should just get on with my life and move on without his dead weight.
I have tried. I have tried and tried and tried. But when I can't even include him in holiday plans because he will want to take a fat bag of weed along, things have palled hugely. If I come clean that I no longer feel the same way, he will be distraught and destroyed. I honestly don't know what to do.
Sorry if this is disjointed- there is probably a pile of stuff I have missed out. I just need some advice.
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Ending a relationship with someone who has anxiety/depression
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HouseAtreides · 16/01/2017 12:39
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