I am stuck in a rut with DP of 7 years. We have two children aged 4 and 4 months, he has always been 'difficult' and has ADD which seems to have a big affect on our relationship. However in the last year it has gone very downhill, during my pregnancy with the baby he was very stand off and less affectionate which I put down to it being a high risk difficult pregnancy. Since the baby has been born it has gotten worse, we haven't had sex in 3 months despite me trying, he often sleeps in spare room which he says is to not disturb us when he leaves very early which is partially true but still makes for a lonely night. He is very unsupportive and only 'helps' around the house if he is asked, for example the baby had a bad night last night so I spent most of the evening settling her and when I got up this morning he hadn't bothered to wash up, tidy his dinner plate or sort out our eldest's school lunch, because he wasn't 'asked' so now when he goes to work I will spend the morning tidying up after him. He seems constantly in a mood and never wants to do anything if I try to go out as a family, then when I react to it he involves our son saying that 'mummy is in a mood now'. I am thoroughly miserable most days and have started to dread him coming home, we had an argument the other day where I told him to go and stay at his mums as if he isn't interested in me anymore then no one is keeping him here, he shouted back that the children keep him here so now I have this statement going over in my head that he doesn't want to be with me but simply doesn't want to leave the children. He refuses to leave and says I just need to 'sort my attitude out' I have contemplated leaving myself Atleast for a few days but this is complicated by the baby having complex health problems and our eldest being at school so staying somewhere else would be really difficult. I desperately want to make things work and keep our family together but don't see how anything could improve and I can't live in a loveless, sexless relationship and to teach the children to accept this kind of relationship.
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