My husband and I have had a tough time since the birth of our wonderful son.
The pregnancy was fraught with illness and anxiety, not the best birth, some feeding issues and a completely non sleeping non eating clingon who is now just amazing.
I had further health issues which were hard to get to the bottom of abd it was very stressful. I had about a year off work; on returning still wasn't great then finally diagnosed with asthma. I'm now just starting to It's been a very long 4 years and we lost our selves along the way.
After another emotional argument I've worked out neither of us have much faith in each other's coping capability. My husband especially tends to tell me what he thinks will happen / assumes the worst about how I might cope or do. I think I do the same - (he's taken a little while to grow up). I probably have too high expectations. I expect he has the same.
Basically there's fear, anxiety and s lack of confidence in each other's parenting strength. Its then hard for us to open up about worries as it ignites the lack of confidence. I think then both our self esteem are low.
We are having counselling, but probably not as regularly as we should.
Any safe advice about how to change these patterns? I think by working this out I can spot it in him or myself as soon as it happens but I'm. It sure how we can make ourselves stronger together.
I have a lot of confidence in child psychology due to my profession. He has struggled with aspects of this/ understanding of what's normal etc. This has been hard too.
I hope this makes sense?
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yellowpostitnote · 28/11/2016 08:13
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