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Beautyisintheeyeofthebeholder Fri 25-Nov-16 23:02:01

Wasn't sure where to post this but here goes.
I recently got back in contact with a friend who well, we had a sexual thing with a while ago. I've never been able to suss out what makes him tick relationship wise and it always intrigued me.
We got talking about sex and he told me that he only dates average looking women as the sex with them is " fantastic" as they make more of an effort in the bedroom to please. Now I'm above average in looks... With out sounding vain it's what I get told a lot, and he said I was good (sex wise) with a bit of cohersion. Now this has stuck with me for some reason and I've changed how I think of him. He's also admitted to using hardcore porn all the time and watches women getting used by men.
I'm posting as I'm not sure if I'm being too insensitive, or what to make of it really.
Any replies appreciated

dementedpixie Fri 25-Nov-16 23:03:55

What are you asking?

Beautyisintheeyeofthebeholder Fri 25-Nov-16 23:06:00

I'm asking is it really a fair statement to say that all plain women are more eager to please the man in bed than a beautiful women. I feel he is being an arse. I just wanted another opinion.

Thundercake Fri 25-Nov-16 23:17:37

He's being an arse

leaveittothediva Fri 25-Nov-16 23:18:39

Well he obviously thinks he's a sex God, Guru, and with looks to match. What's not to like.!!!. He sounds like a complete knobhead. He only dates average looking women, basically saying he thinks they make more of an effort. Jeeeeezus, I've heard it all now. He must think he has a diamond cock. You say yourself you are above average in looks. What are you doing wasting your time with this porn addicted douchebag. There are plenty of decent real men out there. Drop this self absorbed creep. That's all I've got.

TheStoic Fri 25-Nov-16 23:20:53

He's negging you.

Look it up.

You're supposed to jump into bed with him now and give him the best performance of your life, just to prove him wrong.

Woody67 Fri 25-Nov-16 23:25:10

He sounds like a complete dickhead!

SallyR0se Fri 25-Nov-16 23:29:44

Is he fairly average himself? With delusions of Sex God? I've fallen for it myself... You're not the only one! At least now you know, the intrigue will wear off sharpish.

Beautyisintheeyeofthebeholder Fri 25-Nov-16 23:35:16

I suppose he is average. But saying that he looks good for a man late forties. And a bit bigger than average down below blush

DonaldStott Fri 25-Nov-16 23:38:41

Ewwwwwww. What a horrid man. He may have a big dick, but he also IS a big dick.

Ricecrispie Fri 25-Nov-16 23:43:59

Not true, im below average looking and like a sac of potatos in bed, by my own admission, I just cant be arsed. Although when I were younger and more attractive I did make more of an effort I suppose grin

AdoraBell Fri 25-Nov-16 23:44:45

Complete knob. That would be last conversation if it was me.

crunched Fri 25-Nov-16 23:47:19

TheStoic has this spot on.

SallyR0se Fri 25-Nov-16 23:48:16

You being good looking will have made him insecure, as well. Hence having to put you down, or negging as another poster said. Blokes who wave the love truncheon about often don't have much else going for them...

KindDogsTail Fri 25-Nov-16 23:48:43

He's doing that trick to make you doubt yourself and make you feel compelled to show him he should please, please find you super sexy too.

Do not fall for it. Walk away.

Who is he anyway to think he is so great?

You could just as well say, "I find always find that men who never talk about their sexual experiences are the best lovers."

KindDogsTail Fri 25-Nov-16 23:52:35

I've just looked up what you said Stoic I did not know there was a name!

Beautyisintheeyeofthebeholder Sat 26-Nov-16 00:00:36

I didn't know there was a name and it fits what he said. Thank you all for your responses. So much appreciated smile

MrsTerryPratchett Sat 26-Nov-16 01:26:45

I thought negging as soon as I read the OP. He's a wanker.

PenguinsandPebbles Sat 26-Nov-16 01:31:08

Nothing more unattractive than a penis attached to a complete and utter cock.

Cricrichan Sat 26-Nov-16 01:40:05

What kinddogstail said lol

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