My husband and I seperated earlier this year (July) after months of things not being great between us and not spending time together for various reasons. Initially there was a lot of anger and blame on both sides, but as things have calmed down and reality has set in, this has been replaced with sadness and regret that we didn't try harder to sort things out. We both have a history of depression, and counselling over the last few months have helped me to realise from my point of view how bad I had let things get before taking steps to seperate.
I still love my husband, but realise that if we were to have any chance of reconciliation, lots of changes would need to be made from both of us, this is something I would be willing to try , but I'm not sure if he feels the same.
This weekend is our anniversary and I am considering sending him a card with a letter inside telling him how I feel and asking if he has any regrets and before we make the final steps towards divorce if he feels it is worth having one final chance to work things out. I'm fully prepared for him to say he doesn't want to try, but I feel I need to know I have tried in order to move on without constantly wondering "what if.."
Is it really inappropriate to do this on what would have been our anniversary?
My emotions are all over the place this week and really can't decide whether to send it or not - any advice?
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CherryBlossomPink · 25/11/2016 18:31
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