Sorry for any bad grammar, I'm not native English speaker and I am really a mess.
So last Sunday my granny was taken to the hospital. I visited her on saturday and even when she didn't feel well she gave me some instructions what to bring her from my upcoming trip and wished me a nice trip. Saw her on Sunday as well when I was picking my mother up from hers.
Later that day my cousin informed me that she was taken to the hospital via ambulance. She visited her on Monday and I called her doctor on Tuesday. The hospital was 1,5 hours drive but me and my aunt visited her on Tuesday evening, I left work early. I did not expected her to be in such a bad condition, I managed first 10 minutes before I started to cry and was like that for the next 1.5 hours. Barely managed to make it back to home. Called my mom to return to my home country asap as she works away.
Next visit was on Thursday and I said goodbye to her since my family said I should go to the holiday since there wasn't anything I could do, all we got left was to wait. Honestly it was hard but I realised it was easier if she passed away fast so she wouldn't suffer anymore. Now we know she had a brain seizure on Tuesday and that's why she went such a bad condition in so little time. Also weak heart, cancer spreaded to liver and lungs (2 months earlier the doctor said that chemo was successful and she was free of any cancer cells).
So as you can imagine everything that has happened past week has been a shock. I wasn't able to do anything, trying to wrap things up at work and just try to survive this week, no time to do itinerary search or anything since time was an essent and didn't even knew if I was going to the holiday.
Today at 7 AM my cousin called and said she has passed away. Me and my DP (been together almost 10 years) decided to go to the trip because me and my family had decided that the funreal would be held on next Sunday. We would be back night before, so it's basically going there straight away.
After 6 hours flight we are on the other side of the continent. He has been snappy all day because it took me more time to pack than I expected (still on time, had even some to spare), he hates flying and places packed with people. He had no interest how I'm coping (hadn't cried yet) and by the end of the night fall asleep on our rental apartment's couch.
So when I managed to lock myself into the bathroom and realised that I might spend all night there because he's a hard sleeper and even if I can get out he still won't get up to sleep in the bed and I'm here all alone and my granny has died and she will be in a cold room for 4 extra days because I went to the holiday, I just lost my shit and haven't stopped crying since.
It took me back to the time when he was having an affair (2.5 years ago) and all the shit that's been going on since. We're not in a good place and I do know we have no future together but his absence hit me in time when I need him the most and I know that he's just pissed off because we haven't had sex for 1.5 weeks and he's frustrated. I know that the break off is inevitable some day but I can't lose my whole world at once..
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user1471514508 · 05/11/2016 00:02
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